40 Things I learned by 40

  1. Practice gratitude daily. It helps put things in perspective.
  2. Always work for personal growth and self-enhancement.
  3. The only things that you regret are the things that you didn’t do.
  4. Don’t aim for perfection. Often it prevents you from starting many things. Work to a point of self-satisfaction, and then if needed take it higher level.
  5. Break goals into small steps. Ask yourself “what is the one things step I can take right now, to move this forward?”
  6. Don't worry about the "how". When you set on a journey not only is the destination not visible, the route isn't visible either. As long as you can keep seeing the path, keep going.
  7. Trust that in the journey of life, you are exactly where you need to be right now.
  8. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you.
  9. If you don’t put yourself first, don’t expect others too.
  10. Try to make yourself your own best friend. Speak to yourself with, love and compassion.
  11. Let go of pre-conditioned limiting beliefs and values that no longer serve you.
  12. Different folks, different strokes. There is always place in the world for your personal “take” on things.
  13. Believe in abundance. There is lots to go around. The more you give, the more you get.
  14. Don't be afraid to ask for help. People generally care and want to help.
  15. Figure out what things, activities, and experiences bring you joy, and then fill yourself with them.
  16. Start the next day with intent. Decide what you intend to do the next day, but allow for some flexibility.
  17. Set boundaries for yourself, and for every relationship you have. Be consistent and respect those boundaries
  18. Spend time in nature.
  19. Allow yourself to have fun. There are “no qualifiers” to let you enjoy yourself.
  20. Do small things that make an impact on other people’s lives.
  21. Allow yourself to connect emotionally with family and friends. Put your devices down.
  22. Don't keep agreeing to things you don't want to do. It ends up building resentment within and makes you bitter.
  23. Be productive and do things that bring you satisfaction.
  24. Creating things with your hands is very satisfying.
  25. Everyone has their own struggles, so refrain from judging people.
  26. Barista’s at Starbucks can’t get my name right, so I have to change it every time I go (thought I’ll throw that in there too).
  27. Become aware of your thoughts, your actions, and your reactions.
  28. Watch funny movies. Relax and lighten up.
  29. Listen to inspirational material. Music, podcasts, lectures etc. Get motivation daily.
  30. Be proactive in your daily and long-term goals.
  31. Be your own admirer.
  32. Accept yourself. Accept yourself, as you are, with your faults and shortcomings; without judgment.
  33. Respect and then love yourself. You're on a journey, and you did your best with what you had and what you knew.
  34. Forgive yourself and others.
  35. I sleep talk, and once I helped my daughter with her homework while sleep talking! (it’s true).
  36. Don’t stoop beneath a certain level. Maintain your dignity.
  37. Travel often.
  38. Make time to spend with your family and plan activities that everyone enjoys together.
  39. Being young is overrated.
  40. There is a certain contentment with maturity, and shedding of unnecessary layers. Enjoy it.